An Amicable Marriage Separation as an Answer to Prayer

December 10, 2013

Hello, Friends

As many of you know from past letters Lyn, my wife of 34 years, had asked for a divorce in the fall of 2012. This is an update on its legal finalization and some unusually positive aspects of dividing assets.

Lyn suggested, “I would like to make as part of the written agreement that we aspire to keep in touch with each other’s needs. And if one of us becomes in need we seek to help the other.”

“Could we name each other as beneficiaries of our assets?” I wrote Lyn .

She responded, “Ok, that is something I am willing to do.”

We have a promissory note for $16,000 in which the person is wavering on paying it back. “I will take responsibility for that,” Lyn volunteered in our meeting with our lawyer mediator.

One of my major preoccupations has been that if by chance Lyn would pass on I would have little monthly income since I do not have a pension. I learned and told Lyn about four hours before one of our mediation meetings with a lawyer that if we were just legally separated instead of divorced I would be entitled to a pension survivor’s benefit of $460/ month.

Then in the meeting Lyn responded to my worry, “To relieve Jim’s anxiety, since neither of us is involved with someone else, I am willing to just have a “legal separation” instead of a divorce.

Her response brought tears to my eyes. That made me feel really cared about.

All this is written in our agreement which we made official on November 12^th.

It seems like God answered the many prayers for us in ways we did not expect. This agreement which has helped us remain in an amicable relationship will not only help us but also our family interactions. Thank you for your prayers.

Shalom,

Jim

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